“Illusion”

“Darkness never wins, it just fools you into thinking it does”.  Prince Charming,  Once Upon a Time  (ABC ).

Just wanted to share, thought it sounded kind of profound.

Learning and Trying More

So I decided to take some advice from some of the people I follow that also give great information on blogging how to’s and I made a calendar of what to write about and when to post.  I came up with a few different ideas here are some that I will be incorporating into this blog; I would like to share them with you guys, be honest and let me know how I’m doing.   Thanks in advance for your participation.

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Gratitude

I’m writing this to thank everyone that has taken the time to follow, read, like, share or in any other way  be a part of this blog.  I am thoroughly grateful for the time you have taken out of your life to be a part of mine.  I am really just getting started, I look forward to continual growth and just wanted to take the time out to say thank you and I hope you continue on this journey with me.  If anyone has any suggestions on how to make it better please don’t hesitate to let me know.  Again thank you all for your participation in my dream.

Todays 500 words/ 458

This 500 word piece is on perception, again first the definition of which I will again use #2 specifically, judgement.

perception:

noun1 our perception of our own limitations: recognition, awareness, consciousness, appreciation, realization, knowledge, grasp, understanding, comprehension, apprehension; formal cognizance.2 popular perceptions of old age: impression, idea, conception, notion, thought, belief, judgment, estimation.3 he talks with great perception: insight, perceptiveness, percipience, perspicacity, understanding, sharpness, sharp-wittedness, intelligence, intuition, cleverness, incisiveness, trenchancy, astuteness, shrewdness, acuteness, acuity, discernment, sensitivity, penetration, thoughtfulness, profundity; formal perspicuity.

The way we act and react to one another comes from how we perceive each other, meaning whatever interaction we’ve had with someone determines how we deal with them.  The point I want to make is that these initial perceptions are where people deal from; when you meet someone and there a little shady, you will always deal with them from that standpoint;  now as time passes you see this person again and dismiss them solely on your earlier perception of them, unbeknownst to you this person has been actively working to change this part of themselves.

The shame is because of your previous perception you are unable to acknowledge this change or growth and you miss out on the truth of this person.  Many times we look past any changes because some of us can’t or don’t deal well with change, change is a dirty word to some.  It’s unpleasant to think of the work it takes to change so instead of seeing the change and dealing with people accordingly, most people would rather deal with you from the old perception they have of you because its simpler.

The simplest way to receive this is to remember nobody is perfect, whatever you do, do it for your growth and confidence for your love, if not then you set your self at the whim of those around you with their perceptions, those wounds don’t heal easily sometimes it takes a lifetime if you don’t acknowledge them and deal with them.

In fact, who you really are seems to never be enough for some and most times it’s the people closest to you; why is that?  I found that people realise if you change they are forced to change and change how they perceive you or leave you alone because you no longer fit in their box; they like to think they know you best and want to keep you in a nice tidy box which allows them to stay the same, not realizing whether they accept it or not the change is happening every minute of the day.  I surmise the best way is to allow people to be who they are and whatever perception you have of them allow that to expand each time they show you change.

My 500 words for today

This was just a 500 word free write that ended up being 767 words.
Confidence, where does it come from, how do we get it, what are some of the perils of not having it, how is it maintained? As you can see I’ve decided to write about confidence, one of those intrinsic things that we need to obtain and live the life we want; to some its very illusive to others its second nature, to me it just is.
First lets start with the definition of confidence, according to Websters Dictionary:

confidence
1
a :  a feeling or consciousness of one’s powers or of reliance on one’s circumstances had perfect confidence in her ability to succeed met the risk with brash confidence
b :  faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way have confidence in a leader

2
:  the quality or state of being certain :  certitude they had every confidence of success

3
a :  a relation of trust or intimacy took his friend into his confidence
b :  reliance on another’s discretion Their story was told in strictest confidence.
c :  support especially in a legislative body vote of confidence

4
:  a communication made in confidence :  secret accused him of betraying a confidence

Now I’ll be writing this using the 2nd definition or the state of being confident, certain about everything in your existence. Its taking all the confidence I can personally muster up to even finish writing this. I have something to say and want to continue but I keep getting these small nudges that say, “go ahead do it later”, I keep going though. I wonder, is this why some people display confidence in what they’re doing and some just wait till later to do things they really want to do or don’t do them at all.

Anyway this confidence I’m speaking of is not easy to obtain you really have to convince yourself to move especially when you find it difficult, it’s like standing in cement with your stomach spinning like a clothes dryer. Once you’ve made up your mind though, you then have to train your body to act in a way that exudes confidence. I don’t mean conceit I mean confidence really believing in yourself and the fact that you can accomplish anything you set up to. A strong belief in your ability to stay open-minded and ready to be real honest with yourself about who you really are and how you handle life events. The confidence that gives you the strength to start something you’ve always wanted to without waiting for the illusive right time. The confidence that sets you apart from most because you know and believe beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is for you and your good. For me its an inner feeling of knowing and trusting what I want or am doing will result in the highest benefit for me and those I’m around me.

I feel my confidence stems from this sort of belief in myself. I was born with arms shorter than everyone else. From as early as I can remember I have had this confidence and determination because I didn’t want to be treated differently because my arms were a few inches shorter. My mother realizing how utterly cruel children can be attempted to shield me from such abuses but I was so determined to show that I could do whatever they did or even better, I did do some things better : although my arms were short they were and still are very strong. The fear that my mother had really hit when in 1st grade when it was time for gym, she didn’t want me to play and was afraid I would get hurt. Imagine a 6 yr old with a pigtail and hi-top converses with a sundress covered with a hoodie campaigning to the Principle and gym teacher to let me participate in gym. At home I harassed my mother until after a month of me proving to her on the playground that I could handle gym activities, she finally gave the ok.

As I think about that time I must say I did have an immovable confidence in the fact that I could participate like everyone else. This type of confidence derived from the fact that I was determined to be normal.

As I’ve gotten older I’ve lost and found my confidence again and again, this leads me to believe that confidence is something we have inherently and is backed up by courage and determination, that we have the power to use when necessary.

We’re all pirate queens

This is great, I have to Reblog. Blessings.

Amy L Sauder

Under-appreciated. Emotional. Irish. I’d like to think I’m two of those things, but the Pirate Queen musical gets all three 😉

So while recommending this soundtrack that I just can’t be rid of, I thought I’d share how we all are basicly pirate queens. Us creative souls, us dreamers, we can relate to the ups and downs of this epic voyage 🙂 I’ll go through the story song by song, so yes, major spoilers all spoilers basicly here. But I’ll be analyzing the theme of dreaming and how it applies to our lives along the way 🙂

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Listen along with the full playlist free on YouTube here.

Prologue (instrumental)

Bagpipes, just to make sure you remember this is an Irish musical.

The Pirate Queen

A new ship is christened The Pirate Queen. Grania (Grace) O’Malley, the daughter of the captain, sneaks aboard with her sailor love Tiernan.

Woman ❤

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My contribution for Today:

Regarding a post by (Whimsical Wordsmith) I read then re-blogged I’m going to write something here everyday, normally I write a few times a week but since I read that post I’m going to give a little bit more.

I am learning so much from so many other people since I started daily engaging  my Facebook and twitter pages, sharing in this blog and joining writing groups, things like; pay rates for freelancers by (Sophie Lizard) BeAFreelanceBlogger.com, how to set up and run email campaigns by (Amy Saunders) Infusionsoft, how important writing samples and a bio is to getting freelance work, etc…, information on publishing both indie and traditional.

The most important thing I’ve learned so far I think is, 500 hundred words a day is not that hard to write nor does it take as much time as I thought it did.  Once I started writing it turned into a story then I didn’t want to stop because I wanted to see how it ends.

I will continue on this learning journey as far as it will take me , hopefully some will be encouraged to join and grow with me.  In the meantime I hope this post helped someone who’s learning like me.  never give up.

#nodaysoff, #keepwriting.

Reasons to Have a Daily Writing Habit

this was so good had to share, enjoy.

Whimsical Wordsmiths

Okay, I am assuming that we all, at least to some extent, enjoy writing; therefore, the fact that I am informing you on the importance of a daily writing habit should not be too surprising.

Throughout my life, I have been told by many people that writing daily is imperative. They tell this to everyone, even those who do not particularly find any joy in writing.

Below I have provided you with ten basic reasons for why a daily habit of writing is incredibly beneficial. There are millions of reasons, but it would take me a life time to type them all, so I hope  the message is clear with just ten.

  1. Writing every day helps to improve your writing skills from how fast you are able to write, to creating your writing voice, to just making your writing cleaner in general.
  2. It forces you to see importance, beauty, and…

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