This 500 word piece is on perception, again first the definition of which I will again use #2 specifically, judgement.
noun1 our perception of our own limitations: recognition, awareness, consciousness, appreciation, realization, knowledge, grasp, understanding, comprehension, apprehension; formal cognizance.2 popular perceptions of old age: impression, idea, conception, notion, thought, belief, judgment, estimation.3 he talks with great perception: insight, perceptiveness, percipience, perspicacity, understanding, sharpness, sharp-wittedness, intelligence, intuition, cleverness, incisiveness, trenchancy, astuteness, shrewdness, acuteness, acuity, discernment, sensitivity, penetration, thoughtfulness, profundity; formal perspicuity.
The way we act and react to one another comes from how we perceive each other, meaning whatever interaction we’ve had with someone determines how we deal with them. The point I want to make is that these initial perceptions are where people deal from; when you meet someone and there a little shady, you will always deal with them from that standpoint; now as time passes you see this person again and dismiss them solely on your earlier perception of them, unbeknownst to you this person has been actively working to change this part of themselves.
The shame is because of your previous perception you are unable to acknowledge this change or growth and you miss out on the truth of this person. Many times we look past any changes because some of us can’t or don’t deal well with change, change is a dirty word to some. It’s unpleasant to think of the work it takes to change so instead of seeing the change and dealing with people accordingly, most people would rather deal with you from the old perception they have of you because its simpler.
The simplest way to receive this is to remember nobody is perfect, whatever you do, do it for your growth and confidence for your love, if not then you set your self at the whim of those around you with their perceptions, those wounds don’t heal easily sometimes it takes a lifetime if you don’t acknowledge them and deal with them.
In fact, who you really are seems to never be enough for some and most times it’s the people closest to you; why is that? I found that people realise if you change they are forced to change and change how they perceive you or leave you alone because you no longer fit in their box; they like to think they know you best and want to keep you in a nice tidy box which allows them to stay the same, not realizing whether they accept it or not the change is happening every minute of the day. I surmise the best way is to allow people to be who they are and whatever perception you have of them allow that to expand each time they show you change.